That’s one day past transfer…more specifically 1dp5dt, 1 day past a 5 day (old embryo) transfer.

The transfer went great yesterday. I got to see my friend who works there again which is an added bonus. The embryo thawed well and looked like it was starting to hatch when they took the picture that was up on the screen in the transfer room. The embryologist this time didn’t give me any info about the embryo like the last time, but I assume all was good since we did the transfer.

After that we headed to the hotel to start my bed rest. Today I’m hanging out watching TV (A League of Their Own at the moment), reading, and scrolling social media. I’m looking forward to tomorrow morning when I get out of bed and take a shower.

I haven’t decided when/if I’ll test. IFs don’t want to know any results so I won’t be posting anything here if I do take some. I didn’t buy any ahead of time so I wouldn’t be tempted to start too early.

We’re busy the next few days (after today of course) with family things and traveling back home so I probably won’t update until the 3rd or so. Keep those fingers and toes crossed!


Transfer Tomorrow!

We made it to the eve of transfer day! I meant to hope on here last week after I started the progesterone to update on how it was going, but we’ve been busy. Work was hectic the week before Christmas, add in getting ready for being at my parents for a week, and a snow\winter storm life was a bit crazy for a minute.

I’m here with an update now though! Progesterone has been going mostly good. There was one day when the hubs totally messed up on the placement which made for a very sore glute muscle for a few days. Other than that both areas are a little sore, but nothing too bad.

I had blood work done on the 23rd, the morning after my first progesterone injection. The results came back great and we got the confirmation that 12/28 is transfer day! The hotel is booked for tomorrow night and the next night so I can complete bed rest.

Arrival time is 1:30pm. Of course the area is having a rare December snow so we’ll leave extra early to make sure we get there on time. I will breathe a sigh of relief when the embryologist come in and tells me the embryo has been thawed and has picked up cell reproduction. Because they only have one embryo this time if it doesn’t survive the thaw then there will be no transfer. I didn’t think much about this last time because they had two embryos at that time and if one didn’t survive they could thaw the other. I’m just sending good vibes out there that everything goes smoothly tomorrow.

I have both my pineapple shirts, one to wear one to bring. I have my pineapple necklace and a lucky bracelet. I even remembered to bring my transfer socks that the agency sent me last time.

Cross all your fingers and toes for us tomorrow! I will update when we get settled into our hotel tomorrow evening.

Lining Check Results

This morning I went in for my lining check ultrasound.

I had the sweetest tech. She was asked lots of questions about surrogacy and my experience with it. She kept mentioning making money from it which was kind of weird, but some people don’t know much outside of that so I just ignored those comments.

I’ve seen some GC’s say that their techs wouldn’t tell them what the measurements are or anything. That would be so frustrating. Fortunately, that was not the case this morning. She said that my lining was measuring about 11mm (which is great). She told me the size of the biggest follicles in my ovaries which were about what they want them to be (they don’t want them too big because that would indicate ovulation soon which is no good).

Then I saw her put the letter “FF” next to a dark spot off to the side. I immediately knew what those letters stood for and my stomach dropped. FF=Free Fluid. Free fluid is not good in these ultrasounds. I asked her just to confirm my suspicion. She said it was fluid, but that it was a really tiny area of it.

I’ve never had fluid before, but I had seen other GCs in groups who did. Sometimes transfers had to be canceled if there was too much because it can affect implantation of the embryo. I had no idea what the little bit of fluid would mean for us. I stressed about it all day knowing it would be after 3 before I heard anything.

I’ve read that sometimes REs will prescribe mucinex to try and dry it out then do another ultrasound a few days later. I’ve also seen cycles cancelled. I turned to my surrogacy Facebook groups for some help. They reminded me (I had read this before, but had forgotten) that the progesterone usually dries it up once it’s started. I had my fingers crossed that it was such a small amount that they felt the progesterone would take care of it.

Just a few minutes after 3 while I was in the school pick up line I got a text telling me I had a message in my patient portal. Honestly I panicked a little, sure that they were going to be telling me the cycle was cancelled. I fumbled around trying to open the message while internally freaking out a bit.

Boy was I glad I was wrong! (She has the wrong transfer date on here. We talked after and confirmed it’s actually 12/28)

I’m so so happy that they thought it all looked great! My lining was even thicker than I originally thought (yay POM juice, exercise, and yoga….well and the delestrogen 😆) ar 14mm. I had seen this measurement right at the end, but wasn’t sure when she was measuring at that point.

So progesterone starts next week and transfer is in 12 days 🥰

3 Days Until Lining Check

I’ve been drinking my POM juice, doing my yoga poses, using my heating pad, and taking my meds to hopefully get my lining nice and thick before my ultrasound on Thursday. We were out of town this weekend so there was a couple days where an extra (everything other than meds, meds are always done every day) got skipped, but over all I’ve been trying to do each extra everyday. They may or may not make a difference, but it makes me feel like I’m doing something because I only take the delestrogen injection on Mondays and Fridays.

Speaking of the delestrogen injection, I had my husband do my last one and will keep having him do it. It’s just easier and quicker. Although when he did it he only injected half the dose because it is a thick liquid and he thought he had done it all. I went to take the needle off to dispose of it and noticed half the med still in the syringe. This meant he had to do another injection to get the rest of the dose. I’m sure tonight he will make sure he gets all of it out of the syringe the first time 😆 Other than that it was easy and not very painful. This med doesn’t cause any soreness or anything because it’s such a small amount and is only done 2x a week.

Keep your fingers crossed for a fluffy lining on the 16th!!

Time To Fluff Up!

This is going to be a longer update as there was some back and forth after my first blood draw.

I took my last BCP (birth control pill) last Sunday Nov. 28th. Typically my cycle starts 3-4 days after that. It ended up being a very stressful week at work and come Thursday there was not a single sign the CD 1 was coming. Finally Thursday afternoon I started having a little bit of bleeding. I decided to call it good and email the clinic that it was CD 1 because I expected it to pick up. The coordinator emailed back that she would look out for my blood work results the next day. Now, here’s where I’m glad that I emailed her even if I had barely started bleeding. I thought, because on my calendar it says blood test “to be scheduled”, that we needed to wait for CD 1 then we would decide which day to do the blood work, like we did last time. Not the case this time around so I’m glad I emailed. Thursday evening the bleeding tapered off and I thought “oh crap, it’s not actually CD1”.

Friday morning it was for sure CD 1 or 2 and I went in for the blood work. I knew the estradiol level was going to be higher than they wanted because my cycle had just started. I got the results around noon (it was 93 and they want under 60), but didn’t hear from the coordinator until 4pm. Here’s the issue with them waiting until the end of the day to do their updates and such, they turn their phones off at 3:30pm and you can only call the answering service. I received the update via the patient portal on their website. It said the number was higher than they wanted and that the reviewing doctor wanted me to increase my lupron to 2x a day and go in for another blood test and an ultrasound on Monday (today) to rule out a cyst. I sent a message back in the patient portal, but you can’t send messages directly to a person only a department. I know they’re trying to get away from email and prefer using the portal, but I don’t like it. It’s difficult to use on my phone which is what I’m checking messages on 99% of the time. I sent the message, but decided to try and call as well because it was kind of time sensitive with them about to leave for the weekend. I wanted to know if I could go in either Saturday or Sunday for another blood test as this is exactly what happened last time and my numbers dropped quickly. I called the answering service who then contacted the clinic to see if I could talk to someone. Another person from the clinic came on and said she was going to try and help because people were starting to leave for the day. She quickly realized I needed to talk to my actual coordinator who was on the phone. I told her that I needed to talk to her before the weekend so could she please call me back.

My actual coordinator called me like 5 minutes later. I explained the situation. She said that the reviewing dr had ordered the ultrasound and blood work for Monday and we still had to plan on that. However, that we could also do blood work on Sunday and see what the number and go from there. I got off the phone with her and called the imaging center in town (the only one). Unsurprisingly, they didn’t have any appointments available (in our town or their other location 30 mins away). When I asked what someone does when an ultrasound needs to be done on a certain day and she said that I could call for cancellations on Monday morning, but other than that there were no other options. Well, that’s awesome, not to mention stressful. I emailed my coordinator letting her know that there were no appointments available and that I was at a loss of what to do because there weren’t any other options. I told her I knew that she probably wouldn’t get the email until Monday and that I would call the clinic the next day when they opened to see if anyone else could help me.

A few minutes later I got a reply from my coordinator that we would just plan on the blood work on Sunday and hopefully it will be low enough that the ultrasound wouldn’t be needed. I thanked her for answering after hours and then sent many wishes into the universe that my number would drop enough by Sunday morning.

I got up early Sunday morning to be at the clinic when they opened. I then went home and went back to bed. When I woke up my results were in, 62.3. Much, much better, but still not under the 60 cutoff. I was fairly sure that we would be okay as they want it under 60 before starting the delestrogen (scheduled to start tonight) which gave me another 36 hours or so for the number to get lower. Early that afternoon I got an email from our coordinator (so sweet of her to update me outside of normal hours) that the number was much lower which was great news and that she would review it with the doctor first thing in the morning.

This morning I anxiously awaited her email letting me know the plan. About 9am I saw it pop up and opened it immediately and was so relieved to see that my actual doctor there (before it was just the dr that was there) reviewed the info and said that an ultrasound isn’t needed. I get to go ahead with my med calendar as planned! That means I start delestrogen tonight, which is an intermuscular injection that goes in the upper outer hip/glute area. The needles are much bigger and longer than the little Lupron needles. I haven’t decided if I’m going to do it myself or have the hubs do it. I did them last time and it was fine, but it’s an awkward angle. I’ll probably try it myself first then if it’s too hard I’ll call in backup.

I’m so excited to be moving on to the next step, fluffing up that lining!! I’ve got my pomegranate juice in the fridge and will start my yoga poses tonight. Neither of those are proven to help increase the lining, but I like to feel like I’m doing more than just the injections to help. I did them with both my other transfers so I’ll do them again. I usually put a heating pad on my belly before bed for a bit too. Again, not proven to do anything, but at least it feels good!

My next appointment is on the 16th. That will be an ultrasound to check lining thickness and blood work to check Estradiol levels again. Fingers crossed that it’s smooth sailing from here! I kept telling myself that this little issue with the blood work was just us getting the hiccups and stress out of the way early so it can so smoothly from here on out. I really really hope that’s true! It’s so stressful when things don’t go how they’re supposed to.

Happy Monday!