Medical Screening Day!

I currently hanging out at PDX waiting for my flight back home. I touched down about 7:30 this morning. True to form I didn’t sleep well last night. I’ve been uncommonly calm about my med screening appointment. The last two times I’ve been super anxious about it, but not this time for whatever reason. My anxiety didn’t like that so it decided to hyper focus on the “what if” of me getting a flat tire on the way to the airport 🤦‍♀️ I left my house at 5:20am so if I had gotten a flat in the 30 mins to the airport it would have been terrible timing. My husband probably would have had to wake up the kids and come help me on the side of the highway in the dark….no bueno. Luckily I made it just fine.

After I got to PDX I located the comfy chairs (the plush ones with the foot stools) and hung out for a bit. I was exhausted so I took a little power nap while listening to a sleep meditation. When I woke up I decided to grab some breakfast before I changed out of my cozy traveling clothes and into more appropriate clothes for a medical appointment.

The clinic location I was supposed to be seen at had a septic leak this last week and they had to abandon ship until it was repaired. This meant appointments had to be moved to one of their other locations. Luckily they moved me a location that was still close enough to a light rail stop that I didn’t have to take an Uber. It was a little longer ride, but I prefer that over dealing with an Uber/Lyft.

I got to my appointment and checked in. I have a friend who works for the clinic. We’ve known each other going on 25ish years, but haven’t seen each other for a long time. She made sure she was there so we could catch up. It was soooo great to see her and we picked right back up like we’d seen each other last week. I love those type of friends.

I got called back. They drew some blood then got me in an exam room for the uterine evaluation. The doctor did a mock transfer then a saline sonogram to make sure my uterus is in good shape with no polyps or other anomalies. The RE (reproductive endocrinologist) said everything looked great.

I got to chat with my friend some more (we had lots to catch up on!). Then headed back to the airport. I got some lunch and have been just hanging out.

I was hoping to get the results from the in house blood testing today, but I think I was there too late in the day for them to get it done today. My appointment was at 1pm. I think last time it was at 11am so they had it done the same day. Hopefully they send an email fairly early tomorrow. If not I will start to stress that something came back not good.

I’m really happy that the physical exam showed a healthy uterus, ready to grow one more baby. I won’t breathe a total sigh of relief until we get the blood draw results back.

I haven’t heard anything from my lawyer yet. I’m hoping in the next day or two she will email me to set up a time to go over the contract.

Fingers crossed for good blood draw results!


Contract Update

I heard from my lawyer last Friday (the 8th). She sent an email to my and the IFs lawyer letting us know that she received the contract, but didn’t have a chance to review it yet as she had a lot of babies born last week which mean she has to spend a lot of time with adoption paperwork and such. She said she will be on vacation this week (her first vacation since the beginning of 2020 and of course it falls right after our contract is ready for review 😆. It’s not a big deal, I honestly hope she’s enjoying her break if she really hasn’t had a vacation in that long. She said she has our contract on our contract on her schedule for next week to review and set up a time to go over it.

I noticed that we needed to update my husbands wages for when he needs to be reimbursed for lost wages so I sent my lawyer a copy of a recent paystub so she can update the contract.

I emailed our coordinator at the clinic last Thursday to verify our plan regarding when to take my last BCP so my cycle lines up correctly with the med screening. I was supposed to take my last pill on Saturday (10/9) and just wanted to make sure that is correct because airline tickets have already been bought. I realized Saturday morning that she never got back to me. I figured I would just stick with the plan that we had then. Sunday morning at 12:50am she sent me an email confirming that I was to have taken my last pill on Saturday. I wonder if she realized at 1am that she forgot to email me back or what, but I was very surprised to get an email from her at that time.

Now we’re all up to date and just waiting for my lawyer to get back next week to start reviewing the contract. I have two weeks until my med screening. I’m not nervous about it yet, but I’m sure I will be for at least a few days before and the day of for sure. Hopefully everything is still good and we get medical clearance soon after!

Forward Progress

Yesterday evening while I was out for a walk I got an email from IFs lawyer which contained the first draft of our contract. I had expected it sometime this week as IFs had mentioned that they had reviewed it.

When I got home I decided to sit down and go through it (70 pages worth). Most of it was brought over from the last agreement. Their lawyer had asked me a couple questions in the comments and I added those. I made a couple other comments regarding wording. The only big thing I asked to change was the part that said if I end up needing a c-section and the hospital won’t let IFs and my husband in the room that I would give priority to one or both of the IFs being there instead of my husband. I didn’t have it changed last time and didn’t think twice about it. I had heard that my hospital is really accommodating about having everyone in the operating room and just figured it wouldn’t be an issue. Then COVID happened and I had to think about if I needed a c-section there would only be one person allowed. The more I thought about it the more I realized that I wanted to option to have my husband there. I’ve never had major surgery like that and especially in an emergency/urgent type situation I may feel that I need my husband there. I just asked that the wording say something about me being able to make the decision at the time. Depending on the situation I may very well ask one of the IFs to be in the room, but I really would like to have the option in case it’s a scary situation and I need the extra support of having my husband there. We’ll see what their lawyer comes back with. I feel bad asking to change something that I agreed to last time, but the more I was confronted with the reality that only one person be allowed the more I realized I need to be able to make that decision in the moment, not a year beforehand.

I went through the whole contract then sent the copy with my notes to my lawyer last night. I have no idea what her schedule is or if she’s even in town at the moment. If I haven’t heard from her by the end of next week I’ll probably shoot her office an email and see what the hold up is.

I’m glad we’re getting some forward movement on the contract. We have 20 more days until my medical screening. Hopefully that all goes smoothly and we can start looking at a med schedule and a transfer at the end of December. I would really love to be able to transfer the last week in December. We will already be in the area of the clinic because of the holidays. The kids will be out of school so our family in that area can watch them without having to have someone come to our house and take them to school/pick them up. I don’t know if this is an option at the clinic. When I asked about it to the assistant clinic coordinator that I had the intake call with he said that they are typically open for normal business at that time of year except for having days like Christmas/New Years Day off. Hopefully this is the case this year and they have an opening for us that week. My type A personality likes to have a plan/date. Before we have that I spend too much time going over different scenarios, looking up potential due dates, trying to figure out how many weeks I might be at a certain time. It’s all pointless as there are soooo many variables that will change things. However, this is just how my brain works and there’s not a lot I can do about it 😆

Hopefully by my next update we’ll have a contract we’re all happy with and are getting ready to sign. Looking over the agreement this time it looks like we’ll have to have it notarized which we didn’t have to do last time. That will probably add a little time to the process because we’ll have to find a notary and make an appointment.

Have a great week!