An Actual Update

I actually have a real update this week! Woohoo!

I think I mentioned last week that I was probably going to email the recruitment team at the agency just to see what was going on. I did that in the late morning and almost immediately got a response that said they had a meeting coming up shortly and she should have an update for me after that. Three minutes later I had an email addressed to a bunch of people at the agency as well as IFs introducing us to our new case manager. Unfortunately we weren’t able to have the same CM as last time because she has a full case load already 😕 This new CM seems very nice and has been a GC twice before.

That all happened on Wednesday. On Friday I got an email from the new CM introducing herself and asking if we could set up a Zoom meeting. She offered up some days and times, none of which I could make work. I emailed her back and asked if we absolutely needed to to the Zoom. I let her know that my work schedule this summer is must more rigid that it usually is because we have someone out on maternity leave until mid/late Sept. I told her my work hours and asked if she was okay just forgoing the Zoom meeting as it’s my 3rd time with CFC and I was totally fine with just an email. She came back and said that was fine and asked some questions which I answered right back.

She told me in her first email that she would be reaching out to the clinic to let them know that we’re ready to start medical clearance for a sibling surrogacy. She said they would be getting in touch with me once they complete their administrative steps so I’m just waiting on them now. I’m hoping that they don’t take forever and we can start working on getting things scheduled. I haven’t heard anything about when/if we need to do the psych evaluations, it would be great if our last ones were still good, but I think I’ve heard that they are only good for 2 years. I’m sure we will find out!

It’s nice to finally have taken a small step forward! I messaged IFs and told them I had given CFC a little kick in pants to try and move things along a little bit. They said that they had started to draft an email to them as well, but then decided to give them a little more time. They were happy I went ahead and asked what was going on lol While we all know we’re not transferring for another 6ish months, we still all eager to have things move forward because really, it will be here before we know it!

In other news….it’s been crazy hot in the Pacific Northwest. We had record breaking temps for days in a row. Not just daily record breaking, but all time record breaking and it’s still only June! Yesterday was our hottest day at 111*F (44*C) Today it’s supposed to be cooler at 102*F (39*C) which is still stupid warm for here this time of year. Our average high this time of year is 77*F (25*C) so it being this hot this early in the summer is pretty concerning as we live in an area very prone to wildfires. The humidity has also been very low at about 14% during the day. The heat isn’t going away anytime soon either. While we do drop out of the 100s, they are forecasting we stay at or above 90*F (32*C) for the next 14 days. Our forecast changes daily in the High Desert so hopefully that changes and temps get lower. I’m sure a lot of people in the southern US, especially the SW are probably like “that’s not even that bad, our whole summer is that hot.” LOL Problem here is A LOT of people don’t have A/C in their homes because we don’t typically need it. I’ve never had central air in any of the houses I’ve lived in. Most older homes just don’t have it. We have two portable A/C units which makes us luckier than a lot of people, but even with that the house gets up to 84-84*F (28-29*C) during the day. The kids’ bedrooms are like saunas and it has been a real struggle to cool them off enough for the kids to sleep in there. We are lucky here in Bend that our overnight temperatures are relatively low. In the Portland area where most of our family lives it wasn’t getting below 80*F (26*C) at night. That makes it even harder to cool off your house enough to keep it a reasonable temperature the next day.

We are headed out for our first camping trip of the year tomorrow afternoon. Usually we’ve already been camping twice by this time of the year, but it didn’t work out that way this year so we are all very eager to go. We’ll be at a lake that I used to camp at every year as a kid. It’s my daughter’s favorite lake and tomorrow is her 6th birthday so she’s extra excited for tomorrow. It will be nice to at least be able to escape to the water when the temps start climbing.

So there we are…the first real update in weeks 😁 I doubt I will have anything new by next Wednesday with the holiday weekend this weekend, but hopefully by the next week I will have an idea when I will be going to the clinic for med clearance.


Another Wednesday

I had to check any make sure it really is Wednesday after I typed the title…the summer days are really starting to blur together already 😆

This is another week I don’t have much of an update on the sibling journey front. I emailed with our previous case manager to see what the hold up was. Being the awesome, helpful person she is, she asked around. She said that they were trying to figure out what case manager to put us with because she is full with cases. She said she would take us back in a heartbeat, but she doesn’t get to make the decisions. So apparently that’s the hold up. I think I might email the recruiting team again and see if I can push them along a little bit. I know we’re on a slower timeline so our stuff doesn’t take precedence, but we have a really busy summer schedule so scheduling things like psych evals and medical screening appointments might be tricky. I would rather be able to start getting things on the books before our schedule fills up more (we are always super busy in the summer. I feel like we are trying to make up for it being too cold to do much for so many months of the year. Now that the kids are in school our summers are even shorter which means busier).

In other news, school is out for the summer which the kiddos are thrilled about. We have grandparents and cousins coming this next weekend. Then the weekend after that we’re camping for the 4th of July/Liv’s birthday. It’s going to be a busy couple weeks before a slight break.

My sweet sweet first IFs sent us goodies last week! The note said they have been thinking about us and thought they would send some treats 🥰 We talk via WhatsApp every so often. They always send pictures and videos of surro babe #1. She’s growing so fast! I can’t believe she’ll be 3 in September 😊 She has so much family around to love on her, and she seems to be soaking it all up with a smile on her face!

That’s where we’re at as of right now. Nothing going on, just more of the waiting game. I will say that I am being way more patient than in times past because we’ve got some time before we want to transfer. Hopefully by the time the end of the year starts closing in we already have everything taken care of.

Have a great week!

Nothing New

This should be a short and sweet post because I have absolutely no update 😅

Still waiting to hear what the next step is. I don’t think we’ve been handed back over to our coordinator yet. I think we’re still with the recruitment/intake team as far as I know.

Yesterday we celebrated our son’s 8th birthday 🎂🎂 He was so happy it was finally his birthday. We don’t do big birthdays and usually we take them to Great Wolf Lodge instead of a party. We didn’t get to go last year because of COVID and this year we’ve had to push it out to October. I wrote “Happy Birthday Wyatt” on the car window before I went and picked him up at school which he thought was so cool lol Then we went to the store to pick out a cake. He got to choose what he wanted for dinner (bow tie pasta with alfredo). He wanted to take a “nice hot bath to relax.” After he got to open presents and have cake. He shares a birthday with my dad so we did a video chat where they sang Wyatt Happy Birthday, then we sang it to grandpa 😄 All in all I think he had a good day and was happy to be able to say he’s 8 now.

I’ll be back next week with hopefully some type of update!

1 Year Old

Today surro babe #2 is a whole year old! It’s funny how it can seem like yesterday and years ago at the same time.

She is getting so big and seems to be just a joy for her dads. We keep in touch regularly, especially since we’re working on a sibling for her! I get to see pictures of their adventures and hear all about what they’ve been up to.

I got an email this morning saying that the clinic gave me their pre-approval. The agency contact said that once IFs have all their “ducks in a row” we will switch to our coordinator. I would imagine that it will be soon since IFs are always on the ball so once the agency tells them what they need I’m sure they’ll figure it out soon.

For some reason…and there truly is no rhyme or reason to this guess, but I feel like their last embryo is a boy. I think that just stems from the thought that it would be cool to carry another boy to bookend the 3 girls between my son and what I’m almost positive will be my last pregnancy. I’m really keeping my fingers crossed that the transfer goes well and their little one decides to stick around. It would be a great way to end this chapter of my life (the carrying and delivering babies chapter that is).

We will have to wait and see what this adventure has in store for us! Until then…a very very happy 1st birthday to surro babe #2!

Another Weekly Update

It’s Wednesday again so it’s time for another weekly update 😊

There’s not a lot to update on. I got an email from the agency last Friday letting me know that they were still waiting on the pre-approval from the clinic. Once we have that we’ll get moved over to our case manager to start making appointments I think.

I decided to email the agency contact today just to see if she could tell me how the insurance review came back and if ArtRisk thought we would be able to use my insurance for pregnancy coverage. She wrote back very quickly and let me know that they expect my insurance to cover a surrogacy pregnancy…woohoo!! This is great news for everyone. It saves IFs from having to pay premiums on a plan that likely would have either high premiums or a high deductible. We also don’t have to go through the hassle of having ArtRisk try to find a surrogacy friendly plan in the marketplace in Nov. or go thorough the administrative steps to get signed up for a plan. It takes a lot off of everyone’s plates which is great.

I decided to email the clinic today “just to make sure they received my records”. I know they did, it was more of a nudge to say “we’re waiting” 😏 Maybe I’ll hear back from them tomorrow

It’s been close to 100 degrees yesterday 😜 When I said I wish it would warm up a little (when it was 55 degrees) this isn’t exactly what I meant. Luckily it will start cooling down tomorrow (to 89 degrees lol) than keep getting cooler until it’s more reasonable temperatures.

Our schedule is about to get busy. We spent Memorial Day Weekend with family at the coast. We have a weekend home this weekend. The following weekend we have a wedding to attend in the valley (3 hours away). Then the next several weekends are taken up by redoing our son’s bedroom, family visiting, a short camping trip, then preparing and going on our two week camping trip…and that only takes us to August 7th! The summers always fly by for us because we like to do as many things as we can winters can be long and cold here.

Have a great week!