Birth Story: Post Partum Edition

Also not proof reading this post either LOL


After baby was born and with her dads my husband decided to go home and finally get some sleep with the plan that he would come pick me up later that afternoon.

Not too long after he left the nurse was doing her uterine massage and noticed that my uterus was pretty firm and not centered. She placed a catheter again to see if my bladder was holding it up, but it was still off center. She kept my OB updated and kept on with the uterine massage.

During one of her massages she managed to knock loose a large string of clots. While she was getting help to clean it up my OB came in and expressed a lot more clots. They gave me some meds to slow the bleeding.

They weigh the clots and chuck pads to keep track of blood loss. They like to keep it under 500ml, my final number was 1135mL. Even at that my OB didn’t feel like I needed a transfusion and just suggested I stay until the next day so they could monitor me and check my blood levels the next morning. This was kind of a bummer because my husband had already left and couldn’t come back so I was stuck by myself for the next 24 hours. To keep it in perspective the average blood loss for a c section is 1000mL and transfusions aren’t usually indicated for most patients. Most healthy women can handle that much blood loss without a problem which is why my OB didn’t feel the need for a transfusion (thank goodness!)

After the clots came out my bleeding went down to normal and I didn’t have anymore issues. The next nurse that took over my care was surprised when she saw the numbers because I still had good color and was totally mobile and moving around fine.

After an incredibly boring 24 hours (well, there was a lot of sleeping involved since I had been awake since 2:45am at 6/6 because couldn’t sleep that night and it was not 10:30 am on 6/7) I was able to go home.

I started pumping for surro babe when my milk came in a few days later. I pumped for her for about a week and a half. It was great that they wanted to milk because it gave me the opportunity to see the new family. Unlike last time when I came down with bronchitis the day after delivery, this time I felt great. Other than getting tired faster because I was a bit anemic I felt great. I didn’t have any tearing and other than a bit of an achy back for a few days I recovered wonderfully.

Surro babe is just the sweetest, most chill baby. It’s a joy to see her with her dads. She’s so loved already and will have such a wonderful life.

Seeing a baby you carried with their parents makes everything 110% worth anything that was hard in the process. It makes the medications, the injections, the bed rest after transfer, the morning sickness, the blood draws, the aches and pains, the exhaustion, and labor/delivery seem like nothing because you helped make a family! It’s even more special when you adore the IPs and get to add them to your family as well.

So right now IFs are working on getting a passport for her so they can start making plans to return home. These last months have been something else for them. They’ve been living in hotels on visas, not sure when they’ll be able to return because they were getting limited information from their home government. They’ve weathered it all so well, at least from the outside it looks that way LOL

It’s a far cry from what the last months of expecting a baby even in a surrogacy situation. That’s why I was pretty excited when they mentioned before surro babe was born that they want to try and use their last embryo to see if they can have another baby and they asked if I would be willing to be their carrier again 🙂 I would love for them to have a more normal experience as compared with the one COVID has thrust on them this time.

We are waiting a bit though. I see my OB on the 15th and want to make sure she’s okay with me doing this one more time. I think she’ll be fine with it, but with the clots and blood loss I had after delivery I want to talk to her about it.  I’ve also delivered 4 babies in 7 years and the last two were delivered 20 months apart. This time I want to have a little more time between delivery and transfer. We’re hoping to transfer in January 2022. They’re unsure if they’re going to make more embryos if the one they have doesn’t work out. If they do that’s great and I’ll stick with them as long as they want to try. If they don’t want to make new embryos I’ll probably look for other IPs, but will wait until the next January to transfer again. The reason I’m looking at January transfers is because I would prefer not to be pregnant over the holidays again. I’ve done it 3 times and this last time I felt like I couldn’t give my kids the holiday experience I wanted because I didn’t feel well and was tired. Some of the exhaustion was due to our crazy school and swim schedules. With both kids in the same school next time it should be easier. I also enjoyed being pregnant in the summer. People tend to think I’m crazy, but I really liked it and would like to do it one more time.

Another reason for waiting is to put some distance between the process and COVID. Who knows how long things will be restricted for, but we figure waiting a good 18 months is a start. Hopefully by then there is some semblance of “normal” in the world.

I’m not going to lie…I’m missing being pregnant already which is hilarious, but the last 6 weeks were rough! Actually the whole pregnancy was harder than I anticipated LOL We had a super busy schedule for most of it then COVID happened and I was trying to work and home school. I wasn’t able to go to the chiropractor or my prenatal yoga classes. It’s amazing how quickly all that is forgotten after delivery…I told my husband just a few days after she was born that I thought there was something wrong with me because I was missing being pregnant LOL

So don’t go anywhere….pending my OB appointment on the 15th I may be back in surrogacy mode sometime next year 🙂


One thought on “Birth Story: Post Partum Edition

  1. I am so curious as to which country the IPs are from. I was thinking while reading this that if they’re from Europe, they probably won’t get to fly home for a while since travel from the US is still banned. And getting all the paperwork for passports isn’t exactly a quick process. (We still don’t have the application in for Young Miss, and she needs a residency permit to technically be legal. 🤦) I hope it’s smooth sailing for them, and I’m glad they’ve been able to stay calm with everything going on. Not much you can do about it at any rate.

    How exciting if you end up carrying for them again! That would be so cool!

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