Good omen?

In the surrogacy world pineapples are seen as a bit of a good luck charm. This is because pineapple contains bromelain which is thought to help with embryo implantation. A lot of GCs (gestational carriers) eat pineapple leading up and after their transfer. (The catch is you have to eat the core too and I’m hoping that blending it up in a smoothie with make it more tolerable.)

I tell you that to tell you this: I ran to Old Navy today to pick up some shirts for the husband and myself for our upcoming vacation. I found this:

How cute is that?? It was the very last one and it just happened to be in my size! How crazy, that never happens! I didn’t even see it the first time, I had to go back to pick out a different color of another shirt and then I saw it literally right in front of me. I checked the size and immediately felt like it was meant to be mine. I happen to believe in fate and signs to a certain degree and this felt like both. I obviously don’t know what the road ahead has in store, but having this shirt fall into my lap sure felt like it was meant to be. Hopefully one day in the not so distant future I can wear it for a transfer 😁😁

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Evals & Delays

The husband and I had our first psych eval last Wednesday. The psychologist was running a few minutes behind so we were just sitting at the computer waiting. My phone started ringing with a Las Vegas number that I knew was the fertility clinic that I had been emailing with all that day. I didn’t want to miss the fertility clinic call because I had been waiting for over a week to hear from them. I picked it up and as I said hello, Skype started ringing. I went into the kitchen to talk to the fertility clinic and my husband answered Skype.

Here’s the update regarding the fertility clinic: They will only see me on CD 12-14 which this cycle will be when I’m off the grid in Eastern Oregon on a camping trip. We were hoping to get this taken care of before I left, but unfortunately it won’t be possible. After talking to Lesleigh (My clinic contact) she said that I should continue my BCPs (birth control pills) as normal, but instead of taking the active ones for another three weeks I’ll take them for two so we can cut some time off of the wait. Even at that it’s going to be about a month before I can get me medical screening done. I’m definitely bummed. I want to get this process moving for my IFs sake. They’ve waited so long to be able to do this and any delays are just making them wait even longer. That being said I know that delays and the unexpected are the name of the surrogacy game and there’s nothing to be done except go with the flow. At least I know that the next 3 weeks will go pretty quick with preparations for camping and the trip itself. Fingers crossed my body does what it’s supposed to and CD1 shows up when it should. (As a heads up to readers..I don’t plan on leaving out gory details so if talking about cycles, periods, vaginal ultrasounds, OB/GYN appointments makes you uncomfortable this probably isn’t the blog for you LOL)

So back to the psych eval…we finally connected and the evaluation began. Andrea was sitting with a large window behind her which made it so we couldn’t see her face, so we still have no idea what she looks like 😛 She asked me a bunch of questions about my childhood, why I want to be a surrogate, we went over again how many embryos we’ll be transferring (just 1!) if it splits am I willing to carry twins or triplets (yes), what kind of relationship am I expecting after the baby is born, and a slew of others. She asked AJ a handful of questions about our relationship and we were done. She had told us it would take about an hour, we finished in 15 min, just call us over achievers LOL Part of that was due to the fact that the connection wasn’t the best so we each kept cutting out which was wasn’t conducive to any extended conversations. After asking if it was possible for AJ to skip the joint session because it’s hard for him to miss work (he can’t skip it so it is what it is) we said our goodbyes. Andrea had asked that we send her some times we’re available this week because she’s leaving the country next week for a couple weeks and wants this done before she leaves (so do we!). AJ and I talked for a few minutes about what times would work the best. We have to have it on a day where we can take the kids to daycare and at a time that meshes with the 8 hour time difference between us and B & R. We settled on a few days/times and emailed them to Andrea.

Fast forward to today and I still hadn’t heard anything about a time this week. I decided to once again be proactive (this seems to be a good skill in the surrogacy game when wanting to stay in the loop or get things moving) and I emailed Andrea this morning to see if there was an update on an appointment time. She quickly emailed me, B, and R saying that she had a name mix up and thought we were already scheduled. She let them know the times we are available and asked if either of those days/times worked for B & R. B wrote back quickly after and said that they could do Thursday morning. So we’re all set for our joint session Thursday morning. It’ll be an early morning for our kids, but they’ll survive even if they’ll likely end up cranky by the time I pick them up that evening 🙂

Somewhere in there I messaged K (our case manager at our agency) and let her know about the delay with the medical screening as well as having completed our first session with Andrea. I told her that I didn’t know for sure, but I think we did okay. She emailed me back and said that we did in fact pass the evaluation, not that I was concerned, but it’s good to know for sure.

That’s where we’re at right now. I’m really looking forward to talking to B & R again and for AJ to “meet” them. He’s not as emotionally invested in this process obviously, but I think he’ll really like them and see himself in R a bit. They’re both soft spoken, quiet, and let their spouse do most of the talking.

Happy Monday!

We’re not crazy, right?

Not anymore so than any other couple with two young children at least. We’ll find out Wednesday afternoon. The husband and I have our evaluation with the psychologist Wednesday at 3:30. Yesterday I had to fill out the PAI (Personality Assessment Inventory). It was 344 questions, a lot of them repetitive or the same question worded just a little differently. I’d be interested to see what the results showed, but I doubt I’ll be sent a copy of them.

I’ve been waiting since last Monday for the fertility clinic to email or call me so we can get an appointment set up. I was hoping I’d be able to go down there before we head out on vacation on the 20th, but since they’re taking their sweet time I don’t see that happening. The delay in hearing from them is making me worry that they’re seeing something in my records that they don’t like. I did have gestational diabetes with my daughter, but it was very easily diet controlled (to be honest I’m pretty convinced that the lab screwed up my numbers on the 3 hour glucose test, but I can’t prove it obviously). I was also on Clomid for 3-4 cycles while trying to get pregnant with my son and some RE’s think that may have some effect on the uterine lining. The other thing they might be hung up about is that I’ve used the Mirena IUD in the past. Some RE’s think that the use of that particular IUD can cause uterus to not respond favorably to the meds that are used to thicken the uterine lining before transfer. Of course I have no idea if they’re hung up on any of those things because they have yet to contact me. I know that waiting is a HUGE part of surrogacy, and really the waiting would be fine if I knew what was going on. If I have a light at the end of the tunnel, like a date I’m waiting for, I’m much better at not getting stressed about it. However, when I’m left in the dark wondering if they’re going to shut me down before they even see me it stresses me out a bit. Not only did they not contact me today (after a second email from K my case manager), but since tomorrow is the 4th of July I’m sure they’ll be out of the office until at least Wednesday. Thursday will be exactly 2 weeks before we head out on vacation so being able to squeeze it in before them is going to be basically impossible. I guess I’ll aim for pretty much as soon as we get back.

Happy Independence Day for all you Americans!